A Men’s Perspective

10 Reasons Why You Need A Male Coach!

Can I offer you a Men’s Perspective?

No, that was not meant to be sexiest, but intentional.

How many girlfriends are “there for you” (which is amazing and needed) but don’t “tell you what you need to hear”!

I can’t replace a lifelong friend.

I am not here to be your "girlfriend".

I am here to help you become the best version of yourself!

That said, lets go...

#1. YOU NEED TRUTH

You need someone who will talk to you, not just listen!

I can be there for brutal honesty & truth!

Its ok! Admit it... move on...

I’m not hear to "emotionally support" you, I am here to coach and give a roadmap to fulfillment and change!

Truth: If you can take this, we can work well together...

You go to help for women who are more like-minded. They are well-meaning, kind, wonderful humans!

Don’t replace grace, add truth!

The Bible says “seek truth and the truth will set you free.”

All in favor of freedom!

See... The difference between Therapy and Coaching:

Therapy:

focuses on trauma (real or perceived) of the past in hopes to realize the deep hurt and anger that stems from the “past”.

They are medical professionals...and do amazing work with diagnosis / treatment of medical issues.

They diagnose.

They prescribe.

They treat and follow-up.

As needed as that may be... they typically don’t typically empower / help you move forward!

The Rear-view mirror: face the past with your therapist,

Coaching:

Embrace and own the road in front of you: let's move forward to the best version of you!

Both are needed!

***Sidenote***

If you need professional help... please go! I am not a repacement for medical diagnosis and treatment!

Short and Sweet:

Therapy works on your weaknesses!

If that's what you need,

Scroll to the bottom of this page...

in RED, click "I NEED THERAPY NOT COACHING" link,

and I pray you get the help you need! Come back after you have dealt with anchors of your past!

Here's what I do!

I am here to work on your strengths!

I don’t want someone who is not ready for coaching!

*** For those still left***

Stop trying to fill a void with patterns and behaviors that you were raised with!

You desire affirmation your past life!

Ok!

Question: Is. Time. For. Change?

Coaches don’t live in the past, they help & empower you to shape your future!

Grow or Wallow.

Experience change or stay the same. Moving on...

#2. YOU NEED SUPPORT

I’m not the “nice guy” desiring affirmation, or the “bad guy” trying to date you...

I’m your coach giving you a pathway to the best version of you!

Ok! Your dad wasn’t the best at affirming or loving you. I can resonate with that! I understand.

Why does the past have such a grip on you?

Here’s the truth:

Can I be blunt (“guy talk” for truth)

> Stop living for what you “needed” and start living for what you were made for!

> Stop “filling a void” and start living with power and purpose!

Questions to Ponder:

*Do you struggle connecting with men? *(married or single)

*Do you struggle standing up for yourself? *(married or single)

*Do you avoid conflict to “not upset” anyone or cause problems? (married or single)

*Do you struggle finding your true passion and purpose? *(married or single)

Stop looking for a man (even your current man) to fill a void in your life! ... or trying to fill a void that someone in the past didn’t give you!

Dad, boyfriend, past or current husband / partner... cannot make you whole!

In our society, it’s hard to say... so I'll just say it!

You desire a real man, with real masculinity, to adore & love you as you deserve! To lift you up as his queen of the highest honor... to care for you as the worthy partner!

(whether you are single or married) - Let’s find / reveal that man!

Every breakthrough... is a break FROM:

Done with old.

In with new!

Here is new... Success, money, achievement, power .... none of these are wrong!

A man is not / should not be defined by these things! If any many uses them as a fishing lure to bring you close... he is NOT a man... only a boy!

His achievements are a part of his talents, not a facade to trick you / KEEP you in his bedroom! (sorry to be so blunt!) Fire me now if that was to forward! Here is your turning point:

***When you are done “dreaming” of the man or situation you desire... its time to

choose become on the inside what you desperately need on the outside!***

Story Time:

I’ll explain it like this: I had a young male in my office who “described” the perfect women. To make this short... as he described with “bullet points” as I drew her on my white board! Here’s the irony... every attribute he described, he was the opposite. Literally... Skinny Blond Big boobs Smart Successful Funny (you get the point) Him... fat, non-ambitious “gamer” with no purpose or direction for his life... do you see anything wrong with that? My challenge to him is the same for you: ***Are you “becoming” that kind of women to attract the man (husband) you have or want to keep?***

More to follow... stay with me...

#3. YOU NEED TO BE PRESENT

You’re not “showing up” in your own life!

Stop settling!

Stop excusing!

Just because masculinity is suppressed in today’s society doesn’t mean there aren’t men still left!

If you desire one, or are married to one... don’t lose hope in us!

We. Need. You.

We need you to believe in us!!

Yes... I said it! We need you!

Without you , there is no us!

(Can I get a little personal)

Without my wife, I wouldn’t be a man!

Behind every good man there is an amazing women!

The void you need filled; we need filled as well!

Sidenote: can I give you access to a man’s “inner world”?

We are terrified of our own masculinity.

Society leaves no room for us...

What to we do with our insecurities or aggression?

Instead of embracing and learning, we control and suppress.

Both our lives and yours are distorted from what we both need!

On behalf of men; will you accept my apology?

Here is the truth: we feel weak and directionless; often castrated by hyper-sensitivity and society pushing our biggest strengths into the shadow of our inner self...the very thing you yearn for in men is shunned an unaccepted!

We. Need. Help!

If he is “single” – he struggles with interaction; suppressing his true “self” in order to fit a mold that was never meant for him! Fear and rejection rule his decisions!

If he’s “married” – he’s afraid of taking charge for fear of being to strong or “autorotative” ... giving away power and dying to his intimacy, allowing his strength to become his biggest weakness!

The result: instead of leading and protecting; he’s a walking piggy bank! Providing, but never becoming the best version of himself... settling when he should be loving and leading! Men don’t show up because they are not allowed to...unconsciously society or the latest “fling” is telling him to be weak... leading to distrust and inauthenticity!

The result: you (Women) finally have had enough with weak and pathetic!

So... you leave, or he leaves! You choose.

The result is the same!

The truth: men are just as confused as you are!

A man that would give you “butterflies” with his power and purpose are shunned to silence and weakness!

Choose!

A night in shining armour, or a feminine version with no vision leadership or future?

You. Can’t. Have. Both!

So, Your matter! Your presence & your absence matter!

#4. YOU NEED A DESTINATION

A vision. A direction in life...

Blunt: do you know where you are going and what you want?

STOP!

I know this is grabbing you, and you want more... but tap the breaks for a sec...

Do. You. Know. What. You. Want?

So. You. Have. A. Direction. For. You're. Life?

Your purpose?

If not... ASK! That's what I am here for!

How much longer to do you want to spend directionless?

How many more endless days need to go by before you invest in yourself?

Here is the key question in this entire process.

Hit the Pause button one more time:

Does the cost of change outweigh the cost of staying the same?

Change will cost you something!

So. Will. Staying. The. Same!

Do you give yourself to a purpose or meaning that is greater than yourself?

It’s time to plug yourself into people and things that matter!

You will gain clarity and a path with other like-minded people!

Give yourself to a cause... you won’t regret it!

Whats worse:

Never starting your engine to life?

Driving without a roadmap or a destination?

5. YOU NEED A DIFFERENT MINDSET!

How you think; matters!

As a women’s coach, I specialize with women who struggle to think differently!

Here is a hint: don’t ask coaches how they act!

Ask them how they THINK!

Follow this simple equation:

(T) (F) (A)

Thoughts --> Feelings --> Actions

Thoughts determines feelings and actions!

Why does this matter?

Take a moment and ask, has this website already impacted you in some way?

We have not spoken. We (likely) have never met...

and yet I am influencing you just by changing how you think! Awesome right!?!

POINT.

You are where your best thinking has gotten you!

(Say that out loud 3 times)

So, how’s your thinking?

That is my job!

I am a thought coaching... I help people change the way they think!

...not just life coaching!

Here a quick check up:

How often to you answer “I’m alight / things are fine / I’m good?

How much time to spend disconnecting your heart from your life?

Do you live a double life; your external life and your internal desires don’t match?

It’s time to unpack all that!

Well ... I hope you like what you have read this far!

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